Questions on dating
I found him funny and, um, different to the guys I usually dated, we laughed quite a lot, and then I left thinking, ‘Hmmmm? I did not instantly foresee years of adventures and laughter and two little red-headed people without whom we could no longer live. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say?
Who you are right now, the things that you think define you, like your favourite dinner guest and your most-treasured possession, are transient, are not for-ever things.
If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living?
What roles do love and affection play in your life? Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner.
Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.
Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it.
” Others try something more probing like “How long was your last relationship?
And I would have instantly prescreened my answers to those to not give away anything too personal, too painful, to someone who I didn’t yet know I could trust with my secrets, my failings.
I would have judged him, found him wanting, and walked away. What really happened was this – we had a few too many drinks and a spectacularly bad pizza that he thought was fine.
Tell your partner something that you like about them already. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about? If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item.
Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire.
He noticed details, remembered names, and never seemed at a loss for words. ” And I thought for a moment before answering, “You ask good questions.” He thought I was joking, but I was completely sincere.